The Sober House Lesson
A guy asked me out at work. He was nice a respectful but when we went out he was crude and said "I only screw I do not like to use the word make love. To make love is only when a person is in love". He was very angry. He also said he lived in a sober house where the men in the house are not aloud to give women in the community any eye contact or sexual gestures. There is a hospital across the street. What kind of house and what kind of men are these? When I try to find out I get no answer. It is almost a secret on what kind of group home it is. The night we went out he almost seemed like he was fighting back some kind of urge. When I caught him looking at me at work he quickly turned but looked at me with a perverse look and also with guilt. He purposely kept himself away from me like fighting an urge. Once he said "I am not your dream man ok I am not". He is secretive. He never wanted me to let anyone know him or see him. When I did let someone know he quickly kept away. There is something that scares me. I feel like if I knows what he did in the past or who he is that I wont care about him. He also asked me when we went out if I ever had sex with two men. Why? Maybe I am stupid but I do not know and I need answers.
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